In the Wizard of Oz, Dorothy sees a wonderful moment when her life changes from black and white to color. Perhaps she was dreaming, but some dreams do come true. Love makes us see rainbows in vibrant colors.

Today, as I was cycling around beautiful Lighthouse Point, admiring the weather and water, I felt nobody should envy us this gorgeous weather because we certainly paid the price for it this summer. I also noted dozens of cardboard Bush/Cheney and Kerry/Edwards signs popping up like mushrooms in well-manicured lawns. Side by side in a political gardening confrontation. When I stopped in front of a multi-million dollar house on the Intracoastal Waterway, I asked my neighbor why she was voting for a particular candidate, and I was surprised at her response. "I am NOT voting for him!!" She said as she removed HIS sign. This was true of the opposition. It appears that children, in the night, were switching sings, a common occurrence in this city. I couldn't help but laugh at their mischief. One overweight woman with a "Catholics Against Kerry" sign was fuming. I don't know whether she was mad at Kerry, or the kids, or that was just her normal personality.

As I cycled away, I thought to myself how easy it would be for her to simply say to her neighbor, "we disagree politically but isn't it a lovely day and aren't we lucky we live in a country where we can disagree without fear of reprisals?" But she was making a federal case out of child play. Did she not know her facial expressions were being picked up by my radar? Would it not be better for her to go on a diet, do some much needed exercise, fix her hair, improve her disposition and keep more harmony in her household? No wonder these women lose their husbands! She deserves to lose him. Who would want to come home to that every evening?

It takes great effort to keep in shape. (Don't tell me it is hard to keep slim. All you have to do is push yourself away from the table.) But we use food as well as other things for sublimation when we are not happy.

My research indicates that there is an erotic silence of American women, even though they will not justify disturbing the status quo of their families, they still go out and have secret love affairs.

I have spoken to people around here about their logistics and emotions of their clandestine affairs and they have confessed how they orchestrated these meetings, which I have written about in FORBIDDEN PASSION. Some will read it to see whether they are secretly in it! "There is no disguise which can for long conceal love...." La Rochefoucauld - meaning, love gives you, whether male or female, that certain glow; that certain sparkle in the eye, that is obvious to everyone.

A lover can be a secret strength, a good friend, a moment's respite from the drudgery of a job or household chores. I don't recommend that you go out and look for a lover to spice up your laundry day, or I will be inundated with emails. But, for heaven's sake look at yourself in the mirror before you go out that front door, and try to be pleasant. Ask yourself, would my husband look at me twice now? I agree, it is hard work to keep looking glamorous, but a certain amount of dishevelment indicates depression. One of the main problems I see is a bad attitude. Some women are not that pretty yet their husbands are very good looking, so when I asked the men what they saw in "her" - the answer came back - "...she has a pleasant disposition, is easy to live with, is always smiling, and has a great attitude." Ladies, are you listening?

A woman intuitively knows in her heart when her marriage is over, and threatened she becomes a monster. In a love affair, what sustains her is usually not the physical but the emotional. A love affair is delicious anywhere.... In my next newsletter, I will be writing about how to make yourself look fabulous for the holidays.